=AFTER THE PERFORMANCE=

One gentleman, at least, must wait in the carriage lobby until all the ladies in his party have driven away. Never under any circumstances may “the last” gentleman leave a lady standing alone on the sidewalk.  It is the duty of the hostess to take all unattended ladies home who have not a private conveyance of their own, but the obligation does not extend to married couples or odd men.  But if a married lady or widow has ordered her own car to come for her, the odd gentleman waits with her until it appears.  It is then considerate for her to offer him a “lift,” but it is equally proper for her to thank him for waiting and drive off alone.

=AT THE THEATER=

New Yorkers of highest fashion almost never occupy a box at the theater.  At the opera the world of fashion is to be seen in the parterre boxes (not the first tier), and in boxes at some of the horse shows and at many public charity balls and entertainments, but those in boxes at the theater are usually “strangers” or “outsiders.”

No one can dispute that the best theater seats are those in the center of the orchestra.  A box in these days of hatlessness has nothing to recommend it except that the people can sit in a group and gentlemen can go out between the acts easily, but these advantages hardly make up for the disadvantage to four or at least three out of the six box occupants who see scarcely a slice of the stage.

=WILL YOU DINE AND GO TO THE PLAY?=

There is no more popular or agreeable way of entertaining people than to ask them to “dine and go to the play.”  The majority do not even prefer to have “opera” substituted for “play,” because those who care for serious music are a minority compared with those who like the theater.

If a bachelor gives a small theater party he usually takes his guests to dine at the Fitz-Cherry or some other fashionable and “amusing” restaurant, but a married couple living in their own house are more likely to dine at home, unless they belong to a type prevalent in New York which is “restaurant mad.”  The Gildings, in spite of the fact that their own chef is the best there is, are much more apt to dine in a restaurant before going to a play—­or if they don’t dine in a restaurant, they go to one for supper afterwards.  But the Normans, if they ask people to dine and go to the theater, invariably dine at home.

A theater party can of course be of any size, but six or eight is the usual number, and the invitations are telephoned:  “Will Mr. and Mrs. Lovejoy dine with Mr. and Mrs. Norman at seven-thirty on Tuesday and go to the play?”

Or “Will Mr. and Mrs. Oldname dine with Mr. Clubwin Doe on Saturday at the Toit d’Or and go to the play?”

When Mr. and Mrs. Oldname “accept with pleasure” a second message is given:  “Dinner will be at 7.30.”