Don’t, because you personally happen to like a certain young girl who is utterly old-fashioned in outlook and type from ultra modern others who are staying with you, try to “bring them together.”  Never try to make any two people like each other.  If they do, they do; if they don’t, they don’t, and that is all there is to it; but it is of vital importance to your own success as hostess to find out which is the case and collect or separate them accordingly.

=THE CASUAL HOSTESS=

The most casual hostess in the world is the fashionable leader in Newport, she who should by the rules of good society be the most punctilious, since no place in America, or Europe, is more conspicuously representative of luxury and fashion.  Nowhere are there more “guests” or half so many hostesses, and yet hospitality as it is understood everywhere else, is practically unknown.  No one ever goes to stay in a Newport house excepting “on his own” as it were.  It is not an exaggerated story, but quite true, that in many houses of ultra fashion a guest on arriving is told at which meals he is expected to appear, that is at dinners or luncheons given by his hostess.  At all others he is free to go out or stay in by himself.  No effort is assumed for his amusement, or responsibility for his well-being.  It is small wonder that only those who have plenty of friends care to go there—­or in fact, are ever invited!  Those who like to go to visit the most perfectly appointed, but utterly impersonal house, find no other visiting to compare with its unhampering delightfulness.  The hostess simply says on his (or her) arrival: 

“Oh, howdo Freddie (or Constance)!  They’ve put you in the Chinese room, I think.  Ring for tea when you want it.  Struthers telephoned he’d be over around five.  Mrs. Toplofty asked you to dinner to-night and I accepted for you—­hope that was all right.  If not, you’ll have to telephone and get out of it yourself.  I want you to dinner to-morrow night and for lunch on Sunday.  Sorry to leave you, but I’m late for bridge now.  Good-by.”  And she is off.

The Newport hostess is, of course, an extreme type that is seldom met away from that one small watering place in Rhode Island.

=THE ENERGETIC HOSTESS=

The energetic hostess is the antithesis of the one above, and far more universally known.  She is one who fusses and plans continually, who thinks her guests are not having a good time unless she rushes them, Cook’s tourist fashion, from this engagement to that, and crowds with activity and diversion—­never mind what so long as it is something to see or do—­every moment of their stay.