The Spaniard says to his guest:  “All I have is yours.”  It is supposed to be merely a pretty speech—­but in a measure it is true of every host’s attitude toward his house guest.  If you take some one under your roof, he becomes part of, and sharer in, your life and possessions.  Your horse, your fireside, your armchair, your servants, your time, your customs, all are his; your food is his food, your roof his shelter.  You give him the best “spare” room, you set before him the best refreshments you can offer, and your “best” china and glass.  His bed is made up with your best “company” linen and blankets.  You receive your guest with a smile, no matter how inconvenient or troublesome or straining to your resources his visit may be, and on no account do you let him suspect any of this.

=KEEPING ONE’S GUESTS OCCUPIED=

In popular houses where visitors like to go again and again, there is always a happy combination of some attention on the part of the host and hostess, and the perfect freedom of the guests to occupy their time as they choose.

The host and the men staying in the house arrange among themselves to rest or play games or fish or ride or shoot clay pigeons or swim, etc.  The hostess, unless at the seashore where people go bathing in the morning, generally leaves her guests to their own devices until lunch time, though they are always offered whatever diversions the place or neighborhood afford.  They are told there is bathing, fishing, golf; and if they want to do any of these things, it is arranged for them.  But unless something special, such as driving to a picnic or clambake, has been planned, or there is a tennis tournament or golf match of importance, the hostess makes her first appearance just before luncheon.

This is the same as any informal family meal.  If there are thirty guests it makes no difference.  Sometimes there are place cards—­especially if other people have been invited in—­sometimes people find places for themselves.

After luncheon something is usually arranged; perhaps those who play golf go out for their game, and others who do not play go to the country club at the hour the players are supposed to be coming in, so that they can all have tea together.  Those who like motoring perhaps go for a drive, or to a neighbor’s house for bridge, or neighbors come in for tea.  There is always bridge, sometimes there is dancing.  In very big houses musicians are often brought in after dinner, and dancing and bridge alternate till bedtime.

A houseful of young people very easily look after their own amusement.  As said before, a big house is run very much like a country club, and guests are supposed to look after themselves.

Making an especial effort to entertain a guest who is to stay for a week or longer has gone out of custom in the fashionable world, except for an important personage.  A visit from the President of the United States for instance, would necessitate the most punctiliously formal etiquette, no matter how close a friend of the family he may always have been.  For such a visitor a hostess would either arrange a series of entertainments or none, according to her visitor’s inclination.