The owner always sits on the right hand side of the rear seat of a carriage or a motor, that is driven by a coachman or a chauffeur.  If the vehicle belongs to a lady, she should take her own place always, unless she relinquishes it to a guest whose rank is above her own, such as that of the wife of the President or the Governor.  If a man is the owner, he must, on the contrary, give a lady the right hand seat.  Whether in a private carriage, a car or a taxi, a lady must never sit on a gentleman’s left; because according to European etiquette, a lady “on the left” is not a “lady.”  Although this etiquette is not strictly observed in America, no gentleman should risk allowing even a single foreigner to misinterpret a lady’s position.

=AWKWARD QUESTIONS OF PAYMENT=

It is becoming much less customary than it used to be for a gentleman to offer to pay a lady’s way.  If in taking a ferry or a subway, a young woman stops to buy magazines, chocolates, or other trifles, a young man accompanying her usually offers to pay for them.  She quite as usually answers:  “Don’t bother, I have it!” and puts the change on the counter.  It would be awkward for him to protest, and bad taste to press the point.  But usually in small matters such as a subway fare, he pays for two.  If he invites her to go to a ball game, or to a matinee or to tea, he naturally buys the tickets and any refreshment which they may have.

Very often it happens that a young woman and a young man who are bound for the same house party, at a few hours’ distance from the place where they both live, take the same train—­either by accident or by pre-arrangement.  In this case the young woman should pay for every item of her journey.  She should not let her companion pay for her parlor car seat or for her luncheon; nor should he, when they arrive at their destination, tip the porter for carrying her bag.

A gentleman who is by chance sitting next to a lady of his acquaintance on a train or boat, should never think of offering to pay for her seat or for anything she may buy from the vendor.

=THE “ESCORT"=

Notwithstanding the fact that he is met, all dressed in his best store clothes, with his “lady friend” leaning on his arm, in the pages of counterfeit society novels and unauthoritative books on etiquette, there is no such actual person known to good society—­at least not in New York or any great city—­as an escort, he is not only unknown, but he is impossible.

In good society ladies do not go about under the “care of” gentlemen!  It is unheard of for a gentleman to “take” a young girl alone to a dance or to dine or to parties of any description; nor can she accept his sponsorship anywhere whatsoever.  A well behaved young girl goes to public dances only when properly chaperoned and to a private dance with her mother or else accompanied by her maid, who waits for her the entire evening in the dressing room.  It is not only improper, it is impossible for any man to take a lady to a party of any sort, to which she has not been personally invited by the hostess.