of cigars, candy, or books.  Also, a gentleman might carry flowers, or a basket of fruit, or, in fact, any package that looks tempting.  He might even stagger under bags and suitcases, or a small trunk—­but carry a “bundle”?  Not twice!  And yet, many an unknowing woman, sometimes a very young and pretty one, too, has asked a relative, a neighbor, or an admirer, to carry something suggestive of a pillow, done up in crinkled paper and odd lengths of joined string.  Then she wonders afterwards in unenlightened surprise why her cousin, or her neighbor, or her admirer, who is one of the smartest men in town, never comes to see her any more!

=A gentleman offers his arm=

To an old lady or to an invalid a gentleman offers his arm if either of them wants his support.  Otherwise a lady no longer leans upon a gentleman in the daytime, unless to cross a very crowded thoroughfare, or to be helped over a rough piece of road, or under other impeding circumstances.  In accompanying a lady anywhere at night, whether down the steps of a house, or from one building to another, or when walking a distance, a gentleman always offers his arm.  The reason is that in her thin high-heeled slippers, and when it is too dark to see her foothold clearly, she is likely to trip.

Under any of these circumstances when he proffers his assistance, he might say:  “Don’t you think you had better take my arm?  You might trip.”  Or—­“Wouldn’t it be easier if you took my arm along here?  The going is pretty bad.”  Otherwise the only occasions on which a gentleman offers his arm to a lady are in taking her in at a formal dinner, or taking her in to supper at a ball, or when he is an usher at a wedding.  Even in walking across a ballroom, except at a public ball in the grand march, it is the present fashion for the younger generation to walk side by side, never arm in arm.  This, however, is merely an instance where etiquette and the custom of the moment differ.  Old-fashioned gentlemen still offer their arm, and it is, and long will be, in accordance with etiquette to do so.  But etiquette does not permit a gentleman to take a lady’s arm!

In seeing a lady to her carriage or motor, it is quite correct for a gentleman to put his hand under her elbow to assist her; and in helping her out he should alight first and offer her his hand.  He should not hold a parasol over her head unless momentarily while she searches in her wrist-bag for something, or stops perhaps to put on or take off her glove, or do anything that occupies both hands.  With an umbrella the case is different, especially in a sudden and driving rain, when she is often very busily occupied in trying to hold “good” clothes out of the wet and a hat on, as well.  She may also, under these circumstances, take the gentleman’s arm, if the “going” is thereby made any easier.

=A lady never “On the left"=