=Introducing one person to A group=

This is never done on formal occasions when a great many persons are present.  At a small luncheon, for instance, a hostess always introduces her guests to one another.

Let us suppose you are the hostess:  your position is not necessarily near, but it is toward the door.  Mrs. King is sitting quite close to you, Mrs. Lawrence also near.  Miss Robinson and Miss Brown are much farther away.

Mrs. Jones enters.  You go a few steps forward and shake hands with her, then stand aside as it were, for a second only, to see if Mrs. Jones goes to speak to any one.  If she apparently knows no one, you say,

“Mrs. King, do you know Mrs. Jones?” Mrs. King being close at hand (usually but not necessarily) rises, shakes hands with Mrs. Jones and sits down again.  If Mrs. King is an elderly lady, and Mrs. Jones a young one, Mrs. King merely extends her hand and does not rise.  Having said “Mrs. Jones” once, you do not repeat it immediately, but turning to the other lady sitting near you, you say, “Mrs. Lawrence,” then you look across the room and continue, “Miss Robinson, Miss Brown—­Mrs. Jones!” Mrs. Lawrence, if she is young, rises and shakes hands with Mrs. Jones, and the other two bow but do not rise.

At a very big luncheon you would introduce Mrs. Jones to Mrs. King and possibly to Mrs. Lawrence, so that Mrs. Jones might have some one to talk to.  But if other guests come in at this moment, Mrs. Jones finds a place for herself and after a pause, falls naturally into conversation with those she is next to, without giving her name or asking theirs.

A friend’s roof is supposed to be an introduction to those it shelters.  In Best Society this is always recognized if the gathering is intimate, such as at a luncheon, dinner or house party; but it is not accepted at a ball or reception, or any “general” entertainment.  People always talk to their neighbors at table whether introduced or not.  It would be a breach of etiquette not to!  But if Mrs. Jones and Mrs. Norman merely spoke to each other for a few moments, in the drawing-room, it is not necessary that they recognize each other afterwards.

=New York’s bad manners=

New York’s bad manners are often condemned and often very deservedly.  Even though the cause is carelessness rather than intentional indifference, the indifference is no less actual and the rudeness inexcusable.

It is by no means unheard of that after sitting at table next to the guest of honor, a New Yorker will meet her the next day with utter unrecognition.  Not because the New Yorker means to “cut” the stranger or feels the slightest unwillingness to continue the acquaintance, but because few New Yorkers possess enthusiasm enough to make an effort to remember all the new faces they come in contact with, but allow all those who are not especially “fixed”