“Young people, when they come together, ought not, unless they have fortunes, or are to do unusual business, to think about servants!  Servants for what!  To help them eat, and drink, and sleep?  When they have children, there must be some help in a farmer’s or tradesman’s house, but until then, what call is there for a servant in a house, the master of which has to earn every mouthful that is consumed?

“Eating and drinking come three times every day; they must come; and, however little we may, in the days of our health and vigor, care about choice food and about cookery, we very soon get tired of heavy or burnt bread, and of spoiled joints of meat.  We bear them for once or twice perhaps; but about the third time, we begin to lament; about the fifth time, it must be an extraordinary affair that will keep us from complaining; if the like continue for a month or two, we begin to repent; and then adieu to all our anticipated delights.  We discover, when it is too late, that we have not got a help-mate, but a burden; and, the fire of love being damped, the unfortunately educated creature, whose parents are more to blame than she is, unless she resolve to learn her duty, is doomed to lead a life very nearly approaching to that of misery; for, however considerate the husband, he never can esteem her as he would have done, had she been skilled in domestic affairs.

“The mere manual performance of domestic labors is not, indeed, absolutely necessary in the female head of the family of professional men; but, even here, and also in the case of great merchants and of gentlemen living on their fortunes, surely the head of the household ought to be able to give directions as to the purchasing of meal, salting meat, making bread, making preserves of all sorts; and ought to see the things done.

“The lady ought to take care that food be well cooked that there be always a sufficient supply; that there be good living without waste; and that in her department, nothing shall be seen inconsistent with the rank, station, and character of her husband.  If he have a skilful and industrious wife, he will, unless he be of a singularly foolish turn, gladly leave all these things to her absolute dominion, controlled only by the extent of the whole expenditure, of which he must be the best judge.

“But, in a farmer’s or a tradesman’s family, the manual performance is absolutely necessary, whether there be domestics or not.  No one knows how to teach another so well as one who has done, and can do, the thing himself.  It was said of a famous French commander, that, in attacking an enemy, he did not say to his men ‘go on,’ but ‘come on;’ and, whoever has well observed the movements of domestics, must know what a prodigious difference there is in the effect of the words, go and come.