in the army? These questions have been running
in my head and occasionally a more delicate one obtruded.
Shall I marry, and if so, when and whom, and here,
where all my thoughts are revealed, I must needs confess
that now at twenty-nine years of age, I begin to weary
of single blessedness, and long for a fair, loving,
and loveable companion. Now my gentle lady reader,
here is a chance for you, if you are content with
honest love without adoration, faithfulness without
romance; for my romantic days have passed. I have
learnt the sober realities of life, and among them
the truth of God’s declaration that it is not
good for man to be alone. The
Saturday Review
in recent articles, “The Girl of the Period,
&c.,” holds out a poor prospect for the would
be benedict, and I fear there is much truth in the
assertion that the majority of our young women are
husband hunting, that they make matrimony their one
great object, and will condescend to any means whereby
to attain the personal independance given them by
that position, that these marriages without love, only
prompted by selfish considerations, are followed by
a total neglect of all wifely duties—nay
more, that even maternal care and tenderness have
nearly ceased to exist. It is a sad picture, and
sternly drawn. The well-known power of the paper
is put forth in its highest degree, and withering
sarcasm, and bitter contempt accompany its stern reproofs.
Yet there is a final wail of despair at the unlikelihood
of any change for good being effected. This evil
like most others is of our own making. We men
no longer marry while young, but when middle-aged or
with grey hairs beginning to show, a man desires a
wife, he will most likely choose one five and twenty
years his junior. The girl often marry thus because
she cannot get a husband of her own age, and a very
few years lost will doom her to perpetual spinsterhood.
It is necessarily a marriage without love, a lucky
one if there be respect. Girls have learnt that
it is useless to bestow their affections where nature
would have them, and and it is scarcely a matter for
surprise that they should in consequence endeavour
to repress them altogether. Moral for my own
use. Marry while I am young, or not at all.
AUGUST 1st.—To Wangut nine miles rough
and hilly walking. I lost the path once, and
had a long scramble before I regained it. Though
not a pleasant march the scenery is very fine and
picturesque. Wangut lies up a short and contracted
valley, an offshoot of the Scind which is a much larger
one, and the mountains around it are very grand especially
at the head of the valley, I put up large coveys of
grey partridge on the road. I have come here
for the purpose of visiting some mines two miles further
on, and I intend to halt to-morrow and walk to see
them. There is a great row going on while I write
this, the natives appear unwilling to furnish supplies
(milk, eggs, &c.,) and my boatman who has accompanied
me is applying his stick freely by way of persuasion.