III.  Cato was so much talked off that when Sulla was preparing for exhibition the sacred horse race called Troja,[659] in which youths are the actors, and had got together the boys of noble birth and appointed two captains, the boys submitted to the one for his mother’s sake, for he was a son of Metella, Sulla’s wife; but the other, who was a nephew of Pompeius and named Sextus, they would not have, nor would they go through their exercise nor follow him; and on Sulla asking whom they would have, they all called out “Cato,” and Sextus himself gave way and yielded the honour to Cato as his better.  It happened that Sulla was an old friend of Cato’s family, and sometimes he had the children brought to him and talked with them, a kind of friendship which he showed to few, by reason of the weight and state of the office and power that he held.  Sarpedon considering this a great matter both as regarded the honour and security of the youth, constantly took Cato to pay his respects to Sulla at his house, which at that time to all outward appearance differed not from a place of torture for criminals,[660] so great was the number of those who were dragged there and put to the rack.  Cato was at this time in his fourteenth year, and seeing the heads of persons who were said to be men of distinction brought out, and those who were present lamenting inwardly, he asked his paedagogus why nobody killed this man.  Sarpedon replied, “Because they fear him, child, more than they hate him.”  “Why, then,” said Cato, “do you not give me a sword that I might kill him, and so free my country from slavery?” Hearing these words and at the same time observing his eyes and countenance to be filled with passion and resolve, Sarpedon was so afraid that henceforward he kept a close look and watch upon him, that he should not venture on any desperate measure.  Now when he was still a little boy, and some persons asked him whom he loved most, he replied his brother; when he was asked whom he loved next, he gave the same answer, his brother; and so on to the third question, until the questioner was tired out by always getting the same answer.  When he arrived at man’s estate, he strengthened still more his affection to his brother; for when he was twenty years of age he never supped, he never went abroad, never came into the Forum without Caepio.  When Caepio used perfumes, Cato would not have them; and in all other respects he was strict and frugal in his way of living.  Accordingly Caepio, who was admired for his temperance and moderation, admitted that he was indeed temperate and moderate when contrasted with others, “but,” said he, “when I compare my life with Cato’s, I seem to myself to differ not at all from Sippius;” which was the name of a man notorious at that time for luxury and effeminacy.