The last paragraph will lead us naturally enough to the faults of husbands.  Now, although we are inclined to think that these are greatly exaggerated, and that married men are, on the whole, very good—­excellent men and citizens, brave men, battling with the world and its difficulties, and carrying forward the cumbrous machine in its path of progress and civilization—­although we think that, as a class, their merits are actually not fully appreciated, and that the bachelors (sly fellows!) get very much the best of it—­still, we must admit that there is a very large class of thoroughly bad husbands, and that this class may be divided into the foolish, the careless, and the vicious sub-classes, each of which would require at least a volume to be devoted to their treatment and castigation.  Nay, more than a volume.  Archdeacon Paley notes that St. John, apologizing for the brevity and incompleteness of Gospel directions, states that, if all the necessary books were written, the world would not contain them.  So we may say of the faults of foolish husbands; we will, therefore, say no more about them, but return to the part which the wives of such men ought to play.

In the first place, as a true woman, a wife will be as tender of those faults as she can be.  She will not talk to her neighbors about them, nor magnify them, nor dwell upon them.  She, alas! will never be without her share of blame; for the world, rightly or wrongly, often dowers the wife with the faults of the husband, and, seeing no possibility of interfering and assigning to each his or her share, suspects both.  Moreover, in many cases she will have to blame herself chiefly.  We take it that the great majority of women marry the men that they choose.  If they do not do so, they should do so.  They may have been unwise and vain enough to have been pleased and tickled by the flattery of a fool.  When they have married him, they find him, as Dr. Gregory wrote to his daughters, “the most intractable of husbands; led by his passions and caprices, and incapable of hearing the voice of reason.”  A woman’s vanity may be hurt when she finds that she has a husband for whom she has to blush and tremble every time he opens his lips.  She may be annoyed at his clownish jealousy, his mulish obstinacy, his incapability of being managed, led, or driven; but she must reflect that there was a time when a little wisdom and reflection on her own part would have prevented her from delivering her heart and her person to so unworthy a creature.

Women who have wicked husbands are much more to be pitied:  In early life the wives themselves are innocent; and, from the nature of things, their innocence is based upon ignorance.  Here the value of the almost intuitive wisdom and perception of the gentler sex comes into full play.  During courtship, when this perception is in its full power and vigor, it should be freely exercised.  Scandal and common report, in themselves to be avoided, are useful in this.