the conventional hand-shake and the conventional kiss,
and at the other end the final and intimate contact
in which passion finds the supreme satisfaction of
its most profound desire. The intermediate region
has its great significance for us because it offers
a field in which affection has its full scope, but
in which every road may possibly lead to the goal of
sexual love. It is the intimacy of touch contacts,
their inevitable approach to the threshold of sexual
emotion, which leads to a jealous and instinctive
parsimony in the contact of skin and skin and to the
tendency with the increased sensitiveness of the nervous
system involved by civilization to restrain even the
conventional touch manifestation of ordinary affection
and esteem. In China fathers leave off kissing
their daughters while they are still young children.
In England the kiss as an ordinary greeting between
men and women—a custom inherited from classic
and early Christian antiquity—still persisted
to the beginning of the eighteenth century. In
France the same custom existed in the seventeenth century,
but in the middle of that century was beginning to
be regarded as dangerous,[2] while at the present
time the conventional kiss on the cheek is strictly
differentiated from the kiss on the mouth, which is
reserved for lovers. Touch contacts between person
and person, other than those limited and defined by
custom, tend to become either unpleasant—as
an undesired intrusion into an intimate sphere—or
else, when occurring between man and woman at some
peculiar moment, they may make a powerful reverberation
in the emotional and more specifically sexual sphere.
One man falls in love with his future wife because
he has to carry her upstairs with a sprained ankle.
Another dates his love-story from a romp in which his
cheek accidentally came in contact with that of his
future wife. A woman will sometimes instinctively
strive to attract the attention of the man who appeals
to her by a peculiar and prolonged pressure of the
hand—the only touch contact permitted to
her. Dante, as Penta has remarked, refers to
“sight or touch” as the two channels through
which a woman’s love is revived (Purgatorio,
VIII, 76). Even the hand-shake of a sympathetic
man is enough in some chaste and sensitive women to
produce sexual excitement or sometimes even the orgasm.
The cases in which love arises from the influence
of stimuli coming through the sense of touch are no
doubt frequent, and they would be still more frequent
if it were not that the very proximity of this sense
to the sexual sphere causes it to be guarded with
a care which in the case of the other senses it is
impossible to exercise. This intimacy of touch
and the reaction against its sexual approximations
leads to what James has called “the antisexual
instinct, the instinct of personal isolation,
the actual repulsiveness to us of the idea of intimate
contact with most of the persons we meet, especially
those of our own sex.” He refers in this
connection to the unpleasantness of the sensation
felt on occupying a seat still warm from the body of
another person.[3] The Catholic Church has always recognized
the risks of vuluptuous emotion involved in tactile
contacts, and the facility with which even the most
innocent contacts may take on a libidinous character.[4]