‘With Christians,’ she said, ’it constantly happens that I am left unsatisfied because they ejaculate before me, while in coitus with Jews I sometimes ejaculate twice before the orgasm occurs in my partner, or, rather, I hold back the second orgasm until he is ready.’  This is confirmed,” my correspondent continues, “by what I was told by a Russian Jew, a student at the Zuerich Polytechnic, who had a Russian comrade living with a mistress, also a Russian student, or pseudostudent.  One day the Jew, going early to see his friend, was told to enter by a woman’s voice and found his friend’s mistress alone and in her chemise beside the bed.  He was about to retire, but the young woman bade him stay and in a few minutes he was in bed with her.  She told him that her lover had just gone away and that she never had sexual relief with him because he always ejaculated too soon.  That morning he had left her so excited and so unrelieved that she was just about to masturbate—­which she rarely did because it gave her headache—­when she heard the Jew’s voice, and, knowing that Jews are slower in coitus than Christians, she had suddenly resolved to give herself to him.”

I am informed that the sexual power of negroes and slower ejaculation (see Appendix A) are the cause of the favor with which they are viewed by some white women of strong sexual passions in America, and by many prostitutes.  At one time there was a special house in New York City to which white women resorted for these “buck lovers”; the women came heavily veiled and would inspect the penises of the men before making their selection.

It is thus a result of the complexity of the sexual mechanism in women that the whole attitude of a woman toward the sexual relationship is liable to be affected disastrously by the husband’s lack of skill or consideration in initiating her into this intimate mystery.  Normally the stage of apparent repulsion and passivity, often associated with great sensitiveness, physical and moral, passes into one of active participation and aid in the consummation of the sexual act.  But if, from whatever cause, there is partial arrest on the woman’s side of this evolution in the process of courtship, if her submission is merely a mental and deliberate act of will, and not an instinctive and impulsive participation, there is a necessary failure of sexual relief and gratification.  When we find that a woman displays a certain degree of indifference in sexual relationships, and a failure of complete gratification, we have to recognize that the fault may possibly lie, not in her, but in the defective skill of a lover who has not known how to play successfully the complex and subtle game of courtship.  Sexual coldness due to the shock and suffering of the wedding-night is a phenomenon that is far too frequent.[172] Hence it is that many women may never experience sexual gratification and relief, through no defect on their part, but through the failure of