it from the point of view of any other fault.  Even in the modern novels written by the ‘new woman’ the longing for maternity, always an honorable sentiment, is dragged in to veil the so-called ‘lower’ desire.  That some women, at any rate, have very strong passions and that great suffering is entailed by their repression is not, I am sure, sufficiently recognized, even by women themselves.

“Besides the ‘passionless ideal’ which checks their sincerity, there are many causes which serve to disguise a woman’s feelings to herself and make her seem to herself colder than she really is.  Briefly these are:—­

“1.  Unrecognized disease of the reproductive organs, especially after the birth of children.  A friend of mine lamented to me her inability to feel pleasure, though she had done so before the birth of her child, then 3 years old.  With considerable difficulty I persuaded her to see a doctor, who told her all the reproductive organs were seriously congested; so that for three years she had lived in ignorance and regret for her husband’s sake and her own.

    “2.  The dread of recommencing, once having suffered them, all the
    pains and discomforts of child-bearing.

    “3.  Even when precautions are taken, much bother and anxiety is
    involved, which has a very dampening effect on excitement.

“4.  The fact that men will never take any trouble to find out what specially excites a woman.  A woman, as a rule, is at some pains to find out the little things which particularly affect the man she loves,—­it may be a trick of speech, a rose in her hair, or what not,—­and she makes use of her knowledge.  But do you know one man who will take the same trouble? (It is difficult to specify, as what pleases one person may not another.  I find that the things that affect me personally are the following:  [a] Admiration for a man’s mental capacity will translate itself sometimes into direct physical excitement. [b] Scents of white flowers, like tuberose or syringa. [c] The sight of fireflies. [d] The idea or the reality of suspension. [e] Occasionally absolute passivity.)

“5.  The fact that many women satisfy their husbands when themselves disinclined.  This is like eating jam when one does not fancy it, and has a similar effect.  It is a great mistake, in my opinion, to do so, except very rarely.  A man, though perhaps cross at the time, prefers, I believe, to gratify himself a few times, when the woman also enjoys it, to many times when she does not.

“6.  The masochistic tendency of women, or their desire for subjection to the man they love.  I believe no point in the whole question is more misunderstood than this.  Nearly every man imagines that to secure a woman’s love and respect he must give her her own way in small things, and compel her obedience in great ones.  Every man who desires success with a woman