broken off) my fiance used to take an evident pleasure in telling me how he would punish me if I disobeyed him when we were married.  Though we had but little in common mentally, I was frequently struck with the similarity between his ideas and what my own had been in regard to my sister.  He used his authority over me most capriciously.  On one occasion he would not let me have any supper at a dance.  On another he objected to my drinking black coffee.  No day passed without a command or prohibition on some trifling point.  Whenever he saw, though, that I really disliked the interference or made any decided resistance, which happened very seldom, he let me have my own way at once.  I cannot but think, when I recall the various circumstances, that he got a certain pleasure, as I had done with my sister, by an almost unconscious transference of my feelings to himself.

“I find, too, that, when I want a man to say or do to me what would cause me pleasure and he does not gratify me, I feel an intense longing to change places, to be the man and make him, as the woman, feel what I want to feel.  Combined with this is a sense of irritation at not being gratified and a desire to punish him for my deprivation, for his stupidity in not saying or doing the right thing.  I don’t feel any anger at a man not caring for me, but only for not divining my feelings when he does care.

“Now let me take another case:  that of the man who used to experience pleasure when surprising a woman making water. (Cf. Archives d’Anthropologie Criminelle, Nov. 15, 1900.) Here the woman’s embarrassment appears to be a factor; but it seems to me there must be more than this, as confusion might be produced in so many other ways, as if she were found bathing, or undressed, though it might not be so acute.  In reality, I fancy she would be checked in what she was doing, and that the man, perhaps unconsciously, imagined this check and a resulting excitement.  That such a check does sometimes produce excitement I know from experience in traveling.  If the bladder is not emptied before connection the pleasure is often more intense.  Long before I understood these things at all I was struck by this quotation:  ’Cette volupte que ressentent les bords de la mer, d’etre toujours pleins sans jamais deborder?’ What would be the effect on a man of a sudden check at the supreme moment of sexual pleasure?  In reality, I suppose, pain, as the nerves would be at their full tension and unable to respond to any further stimulus; but, in imagination, one’s nerves are not at their highest tension, and one imagines an increase or, at any rate, a prolongation of the pleasurable sensations.  Something of all this, some vague reflection of the woman’s possible sensations, seems to enter in the man’s feelings in surprising the woman.  In any case his pleasure in her confusion seems to me a reflection of her feelings, for the sense of shame and embarrassment before a