Study of Child Life eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 160 pages of information about Study of Child Life.

Study of Child Life eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 160 pages of information about Study of Child Life.

[Sidenote:  Fear versus Love]

Second:  Corporal punishment is wrong because it inculcates fear of pain as the motive for conduct, instead of love of righteousness.  It tends directly to cultivate cowardice, deceitfulness, and anger—­three faults worse than almost any fault against which it can be employed.  True, some persons grow up both gentle and straightforward in spite of the fact that they have been whipped in their youth, but it is in spite of, and not because of it.  In their homes other good qualities must have counteracted the pernicious effect of this mistaken procedure.

[Sidenote:  Sensibilities Blunted]

Third:  Corporal punishment may, indeed, achieve immediate results such as seem at the moment to be eminently desirable.  The child, if he be young enough, weak enough, and helpless enough, may be made to do almost anything by fear of the rod; and some of the things he may thus be made to do may be exactly the things that he ought to do; and this certainty of result is exactly what prompts many otherwise just and thoughtful persons to the use of corporal punishment.  But these good results are obtained at the expense of the future.  The effect of each spanking is a little less than the effect of the preceding one.  The child’s sensibilities blunt.  As in the case of a man with the drug habit, it requires a larger and larger dose to produce the required effect.  That is, if he is a strong child capable of enduring and resisting much.  If, on the contrary, he is a weak child, whose slow budding will come only timidly into existence, one or two whippings followed by threats, may suffice to keep him in a permanently cowed condition, incapable of initiative, incapable of spontaneity.

The method of discipline here indicated, while it is more searching than any corporal punishment, does not have any of its disadvantages.  It is more searching, because it never blunts the child’s sensibilities, but rather tends to refine them, and to make them more responsive.

[Sidenote:  Educative Discipline]

[Sidenote:  Permanent Results]

The child thus trained should become more susceptible, day by day, to gentle and elevating influences.  This discipline is educative, explaining to the child why what he does is wrong, showing him the painful effects as inherent in the deed itself.  He cannot, therefore, conceive of himself as being ever set free from the obligation to do right; for that obligation within his experience does not rest upon his mother’s will or ability to inflict punishment, but upon the very nature of the universe of which he is a part.  The effects of such discipline are therefore permanent.  That which happens to the child in the nursery, also happens to him in the great world when he reaches manhood.  His nursery training interprets and orders the world for him.  He comes, therefore, into the world not desiring to experiment with evil, but clear-eyed to detect it, and strong-armed to overcome it.

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