11.  LOVE AGAIN.—­As love was the cause of your suffering, so love again will restore you, and you will love better and more consistently.  Do not allow yourself to become soured and detest and shun association.  Rebuild your dilapidated sexuality by cultivating a general appreciation of the excellence, especially of the mental and moral qualities of the opposite sex.  Conquer your prejudices, and vow not to allow anyone to annoy or disturb your calmness.

12.  LOVE FOR THE DEAD.—­A most affectionate woman, who continues to love her affianced though long dead, instead of becoming soured or deadened, manifests all the richness and sweetness of the fully-developed woman thoroughly in love, along with a softened, mellow, twilight sadness which touches every heart, yet throws a peculiar lustre and beauty over her manners and entire character.  She must mourn, but not forever.  It is not her duty to herself or to her Creator.

13.  A SURE REMEDY.—­Come in contact with the other sex.  You are infused with your lover’s magnetism, which must remain till displaced by another’s.  Go to parties and picnics; be free, familiar, offhand, even forward; try your knack at fascinating another, and yield to fascinations yourself.  But be honest, command respect, and make yourself attractive and worthy.

[Illustration:  A SURE REMEDY.]

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FORMER CUSTOMS AND PECULIARITIES AMONG MEN.

1.  POLYGAMY.—­There is a wide difference as regards the relations of the sexes in different parts of the world.  In some parts polygamy has prevailed from time immemorial.

Most savage people are polygamists, and the Turks, though slowly departing from the practice, still allow themselves a plurality of wives.

2.  RULE REVERSED.—­In Thibet the rule is reversed, and the females are provided with two or more husbands.  It is said that in many instances a whole family of brothers have but one wife.  The custom has at least one advantageous feature, viz.:  the possibility of leaving an unprotected widow and a number of fatherless children is entirely obviated.

3.  THE MORGANATIC MARRIAGE is a modification of polygamy.  It sometimes occurs among the royalty of Europe, and is regarded as perfectly legitimate, but the morganatic wife is of lower rank than her royal husband, and her children do not inherit his rank or fortune.  The Queen only is the consort of the sovereign, and entitled to share his rank.

4.  DIFFERENT MANNERS OF OBTAINING WIVES.—­Among the uncivilized almost any envied possession is taken by brute force or superior strength.  The same is true in obtaining a wife.  The strong take precedence of the weak.  It is said that among the North American Indians it was the custom for men to wrestle for the choice of women.  A weak man could seldom retain a wife that a strong man coveted.

The law of contest was not confined to individuals alone.  Women were frequently the cause of whole tribes arraying themselves against each other in battle.  The effort to excel in physical power was a great incentive to bodily development, and since the best of the men were preferred by the most superior women, the custom was a good one in this, that the race was improved.