8. JEALOUSY.—When one of the lovers, once so tender, now all at once so cold and hardened; once so coy and familiar now suddenly so reserved, distant, hard and austere, is always a sure case of jealousy. A jealous person is first talkative, very affectionate, and then all at once changes and becomes cold, reserved and repulsive, apparently without cause. If a person is jealous before marriage, this characteristic will be increased rather than diminished by marriage.
9. CONFESSION.—If you make up by confession, the confessor feels mean and disgraced; or if both confess and forgive, both feel humbled; since forgiveness implies inferiority and pity; from which whatever is manly and womanly shrinks. Still even this is better than continued “spats.”
10. PREVENTION.—If you can get along well in your courtship you will invariably make a happy couple if you should unite your destinies in marriage. Learn not to give nor take offence. You must remember that all humanity is imperfect at best. We all have our faults, and must keep them in subordination. Those who truly love each other will have but few difficulties in their courtship or in married life.
11. REMEDIES.—Establishing a perfect love in the beginning constitutes a preventive. Fear that they are not truly loved usually paves the way for “spats.” Let all who make any pretension guard against all beginnings of this reversal, and strangle these “hate-spats” the moment they arise. “Let not the sun go down upon thy wrath,” not even an hour, but let the next sentence after they begin quench them forever. And let those who cannot court without “spats,” stop; for those who spat before marriage must quarrel after.
[Illustration: “LET NOT THE SUN GO DOWN UPON THY WRATH".]
[Illustration: ALONE AND FORSAKEN.]
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A BROKEN HEART.
1. WOUNDED LOVE.—’Tis true that love wields a magic, sovereign, absolute, and tyrannical power over both the body and the mind when it is given control. It often, in case of dissapointment, works havoc and deals death blows to its victims, and leaves many in that morbid mental condition which no life-tonics simply can restore. Wounded love may be the result of hasty and indiscreet conduct of young people; or the outgrowth of lust, or the result of domestic infidelity and discord.
2. FATAL EFFECTS.—Our cemeteries receive within the cold shadows of the grave thousands and thousands of victims that annually die from the results of “broken hearts.” It is no doubt a fact that love troubles cause more disorders of the heart than everything else combined.
3. DISRUPTED LOVE.—It has long been known that dogs, birds, and even horses, when separated from their companions or friends, have pined away and died; so it is not strange that man with his higher intuitive ideas of affection should suffer from love when suddenly disrupted.