5.  LEGISLATION.—­But no human legislation can so guard this institution but that it may be broken in spirit, though, perhaps, acceded to in form; for, it is the heart which this institution requires.  There must be true and devoted affection, or marriage is a farce and a failure.

6.  THE MARRIAGE CEREMONY AND THE LAW GOVERNING MARRIAGE are for the protection of the individual, yet a man and woman may be married by law and yet unmarried in spirit.  The law may tie together, and no marriage be consummated.  Marriage therefore is Divine, and “whom God hath joined together let no man put asunder.”  A right marriage means a right state of the heart.  A careful study of this work will be a great help to both the unmarried and the married.

7.  DESERTION AND DIVORCE.—­For a young man to court a young woman, and excite her love till her affections are riveted, and then (from sinister motives, such as, to marry one richer, or more handsome), to leave her, and try elsewhere, is the very same crime as to divorce her from all that she holds dear on earth—­to root up and pull out her imbedded affections, and to tear her from her rightful husband.  First love is always constant.  The second love brings uncertainty—­too often desertions before marriage and divorces after marriage.

8.  THE COQUET.—­The young woman to play the coquet, and sport with the sincere affections of an honest and devoted young man, is one of the highest crimes that human nature can commit.  Better murder him in body too, as she does in soul and morals, and it is the result of previous disappointment, never the outcome of a sincere first love.

9.  ONE MARRIAGE.  One evidence that second marriages are contrary to the laws of our social nature, is the fact that almost all step-parents and step-children disagree.  Now, what law has been broken, to induce this penalty?  The law of marriage; and this is one of the ways in which the breach punishes itself.  It is much more in accordance with our natural feelings, especially those of mothers, that children should be brought up by their own parent.

10.  SECOND MARRIAGE.—­Another proof of this point is, that second marriage is more a matter of business.  “I’ll give you a home, if you’ll take care of my children.”  “It’s a bargain,” is the way most second matches are made.  There is little of the poetry of first-love, and little of the coyness and shrinking diffidence which characterize the first attachment.  Still these remarks apply almost equally to a second attachment, as to second marriage.

11.  THE CONCLUSION OF THE WHOLE MATTER.—­Let this portion be read and pondered, and also the one entitled, “Marry your First Love if possible,” which assigns the cause, and points out the only remedy, of licentiousness.  As long as the main cause of this vice exists, and is aggravated by purse-proud, high-born, aristocratic parents and friends, and even by the virtuous and religious, just so long, and exactly in the same ratio will this blighting Sirocco blast the fairest flowers of female innocence and lovliness, and blight our noblest specimens of manliness.  No sin of our land is greater.