Hence, if it should sometimes happen that the husband should arrive at the climax before the wife does, and he could not bring her to an orgasm by excitation with his spent penis, it would be perfectly right for him to substitute his fingers, and satisfy her in that way.  Of course, this would not be as satisfying to her as it would have been could she have met him simultaneously, but it is far better than for her not to be entirely gratified!  Many a woman SUFFERS ALL NIGHT LONG with unsatisfied desire, her organs congested and tumescent, because she has been left UNSATISFIED by a husband who has spent before she was ready, AND THEN LEFT HER!  Such cases might be entirely relieved, if the parties knew the truth, and were not too ignorant, or prejudiced, or ashamed to do what should be done to make the best of a situation.

Of course, no husband should make a practice of gratifying himself fully, and then bringing his wife to the climax with his fingers.  Such a practice would be selfish and wrong.  But as an emergency way of escape, the method is to be commended.

Of course, as has already been explained, the husband always has the advantage, that he can be brought to the orgasm by the insertion of the penis into the vagina, after his wife has spent, if she arrives first, since her organs detumesce slowly, and their distended condition permits such action on his part, for some time after she has passed the climax.  But not so with the husband.  Once spent, his penis shrinks to limpness, almost immediately, and in this condition it cannot satisfy the wife in the least, much less bring her to an orgasm.

Again, if, for any reason, the wife should be unable to meet her husband in coitus proper, because of weakness, or slight illness, or perhaps some temporary soreness of the parts, it would help the situation wonderfully if she would take his penis in her hand and “play with it” till he spent.  He would love her for it, kiss her for it, give her his soul for it!

If a bride and bridegroom knew enough to introduce each other to the delights of an orgasm by “spending” each other by external excitation of the organs with their hands a few times before they united the organs at all, it would be to their lasting well being.  This is especially true for the bride.  If her lover would take her in his arms, even with all her clothes on, as she sat on his lap, in their bridal chamber, alone, and stroke her vulva till she “spent,” the chances are many to one that he would have introduced her to such a joy that she would never forget it, all her life.  Surely, such method is infinitely superior to raping a bride, as is so frequently done by the ignorant or goody-good young husband, who “stands upon his rights!”