Now the thing to do, under such circumstances, is for the parties to “get together.”  And the way to do this is, first, to prolong the FIRST part of the act, till the wife has not only caught up with, but is even ahead of her husband in the state of her passion.  To bring about this condition, the husband should use every means to stimulate his wife’s sex-nature and increase her desire for coition. Here are some things he can do, which will tend to produce such results: 

A woman’s breasts are directly connected with all her reproductive nerves.  This is especially true of her nipples.  To touch them is to directly excite all of her sex organs.  The lips and tongue are also thus nervously connected with these vital parts, and, so, if the husband will “play” with his wife’s breasts, especially with her nipples, manipulating them with his fingers, or, better still, with his lips and tongue—­at the same time, if he will stroke her vulva with his fingers, especially the clitoris, and if she will encourage him to do this, by holding her breast with one hand, shaking it about as her nipple is in her lover’s lips; if, lying flat on her back, her husband at her right side, and with his left arm around her waist, she will spread her legs wide apart, thus opening the vulva to its utmost, and sway her hips, raising and lowering them betimes; and, since she has a free hand, if, with this, she will take her husband’s penis with it and “play” with it as her lover plays with her vulva—­if they will do this, the cases are rare in which passion will not grow in the wife to almost any desirable extent.  Under such “courting,” the parts will all enlarge, the pre-coital secretion will flow in abundance; and, in due course, all will be ready for the second part of the act.  This part of coitus is, really, one of the most enjoyable of the entire performance.

If, perchance, the pre-coital secretion should be tardy in appearing on the part of the wife, so that the vulva is dry as the husband strokes it, let him moisten the part with saliva from his mouth.  To do this, let him moisten his fingers from his mouth, and transfer this to the vulva, and then proceed with his stroking.  This moistening the vulva with saliva may be repeated several times, if necessary, always until the flow of pre-coital fluid from the parts themselves renders any further moistening needless. The stroking of the dry vulva will do little toward the arousing of passion, or producing the pre-coital flow.  But if the parts be moistened, as above directed, both these desired results will follow, except in very rare cases.