A very frequent cause of married unsatisfaction is the fact of the difference of time that it takes for the husband and wife to come to the climax, the orgasm.  As has already been noted, the highest delight in the act comes when this climax is simultaneous, comes at exactly the same instant to both parties.  But to bring this about is not easy in all cases, and hence what follows: 

As a rule, women are slower in reaching the orgasm than are men.  This is not always so, but it is generally the case.  Some wives are so passionate that they will “spend” several times to their husbands’ once!  The author knows of a case where the wife will regularly experience the orgasm four or five times to her husband’s once.  She is a lovely wife and a highly accomplished woman, in no sense “fleshy” or “worldly minded.”  The situation is that her sex organs are exceedingly sensitive while those of her husband are the reverse, they are “timed” differently, that is all.  The case is rare, and as a rule, women are “timed” slower than men.

Again, after a man has passed the orgasm it is, in most cases, impossible for him to continue the act, right then and there, and bring the woman to the climax, if she has not yet arrived, from the fact that, with the expulsion of the semen, usually detumescence of the penis at once takes place, and the organ is incapable of exciting the woman when in this condition.  And so, if the husband “goes off” first, there is no possibility of the wife’s reaching the climax at that embrace.  This leaves her unsatisfied, all her sex organs congested, and the whole situation is unsatisfactory, in the extreme.  On the other hand, if the wife comes to the orgasm first, her vulva and vagina detumesce but little and that very slowly, so that it is perfectly possible for the husband to continue his action, and come to the climax, even if his partner has already “spent.”

Under these conditions it is easy to see that, where the wife is “keyed” or “timed” much slower than her husband, as is quite often the case, coitus is very liable to be a very one-sided affair, one in which the husband gets all the satisfaction, and the wife little or NONE—­a most unfortunate status for both parties, but especially for the wife. The writer once knew a case where a husband and wife lived together to celebrate their golden wedding, and the wife never once experienced an orgasm, though the husband cohabited with her several times a month, during the most of their married life.  There was no good reason why this should have been so, only that the husband was “quick in action” and the wife somewhat slow, and they had never synchronated their time differences.  The dear old lady died at ninety, never having known a joy that, since her bridal night, she had wished for.  Both the husband and wife were most excellent people. They simply didn’t know! One was ignorant and the other innocent, and there you are again!