eye notes with some depression the absence from both
spheres of a fine manliness, a generous conception
of things, a large outlook, that prevents a squabble
with a smile, and because of a consciousness of the
need for determination in a great fight for a principle,
holds in true contempt the trivialities of an hour.
For in all the mean little bickerings of life there
is involved not a principle, but a petty pride.
One has to note these things and decide a line of
action. In the abstract the right course seems
quite natural and easy, but in fact it is not so.
A man finds another act towards him with unconscious
impudence or arrogance, and at once flies into a rage;
there is a fierce wrangle, and at the end he finds
no purpose served, for nothing was at stake.
He has lost his temper for nothing. In his heat
he may tell you “he wouldn’t let so-and-so
do so-and-so,” but on the same principle he
should hold a street-argument with every fish-wife
who might call him a name. He may tell you “he
will make so-and-so respect him,” but he offends
his own self-respect if he cannot consider some things
beneath him. One must have a sense of proportion
and not elevate every little act of impudence into
a challenge of life to be fought over as for life
and death. It may be corrected with a little humour
or a little disdain, but always with sympathy for
the narrow mind whose view of life cannot reach beyond
these petty things. Yet, to repeat, it is not
easy. An irritable temper will be on fire before
reason can check it; the process of correction will
prove uncomfortable—the reasons will be
there, but the feelings in revolt. Still, little
by little, it is brought under, and in the end the
nasty little irritability is killed just like a troublesome
nerve; and, by and by, what once provoked a fierce
rage becomes a subject for humorous reflection.
Let no one fear we kill the nerve for the great Battle
of Life; this we but strengthen and make constant.
Every act of personal discipline is contributing to
a subconscious reservoir whence our nobler energies
are supplied for ever. And so, little things
lead to great; and in an office wrangle or a social
squabble there is need for developing those very qualities
of judgment, courage, and patience which equip a man
for the trials of the battlefield or the ruling of
the state.
IV
We have considered the individual in business and social life. Let us now follow him into a political assembly. We find the same conditions prevail. Again, men fight bitterly but most frequently for nothing worth a fight; and again those rightly judging the situation must resolve not to be tempted into a wrangle even if their restraint be called by another name. What in a political assembly is often the first thing to note? We begin by the assumption, “this is a practical body of men,” the words invariably used to cover the putting by of some great principle that we ought all endorse and uphold. But, first,