But to have this severe office performed by a servant, though at the father’s command, and that professedly, that the aversion of the child for the pain it suffers should be turned on the person who immediately inflicts it, is, I humbly think, the reverse of what ought to be done.  And more so, if this servant has any direction of the child’s education; and still much more so, if it be his tutor, though Mr. Locke says, there is no doubt, if there be a tutor, that it should be done by him.

For, dear Sir, is there no doubt, that the tutor should lay himself open to the aversion of the child, whose manners he is to form?  Is not the best method a tutor can take, in order to enforce the lessons he would inculcate, to try to attract the love and attention of his pupil by the most winning ways he can possibly think of?  And yet is he, this very tutor out of all doubt, to be the instrument of doing an harsh and disgraceful thing, and that in the last resort, when all other methods are found ineffectual; and that too, because he ought to incur the child’s resentment and aversion, rather than the father?  No, surely, Sir, it is not reasonable it should be so:  quite contrary, in my humble notion, there can be no doubt, but that it should be otherwise.

It should, methinks, be enough for a tutor, in case of a fault in the child, to threaten to complain to his father; but yet not to make such a complaint, without the child obstinately persists in his error, which, too, should be of a nature to merit such an appeal:  and this might highly contribute to preserve the parent’s authority; who, on this occasion, should never fail of extorting a promise of amendment, or of instantly punishing him with his own hands.  And, to soften the distaste he might conceive in resentment of too rigid complainings, it might not be amiss, that his interposition in the child’s favour, were the fault not too flagrant, should be permitted to save him once or twice from the impending discipline.

’Tis certain that the passions, if I may so call them, of affection and aversion, are very early discoverable in children; insomuch that they will, even before they can speak, afford us marks for the detection of an hypocritical appearance of love to it before the parents’ faces.  For the fondness or averseness of the child to some servants, will at any time let one know, whether their love to the baby is uniform and the same, when one is absent, as present.  In one case the child will reject with sullenness all the little sycophancies made to it in one’s sight; while on the other, its fondness of the person, who generally obliges it, is an infallible rule to judge of such an one’s sincerity behind one’s back.  This little observation shews the strength of a child’s resentments, and its sagacity, at the earliest age, in discovering who obliges, and who disobliges it:  and hence one may infer, how improper a person he is, whom we would have a child to love and respect, or by whose precepts we would have it directed, to be the punisher of its faults, or to do any harsh or disagreeable office to it.