so mean as to be proud:  that even I would sooner forget pride in a low degree than in a high; for it may be a security in the first against doing a base thing:  but in the rich, it is a base thing itself, and an impolitic one too; for the more distinction a proud mind grasps at, the less it will have; and every poor despised person can whisper such a one in the ear, when surrounded with, and adorned by, all his glittering splendours, that he was born, and must die, in the same manner with those whom he despises.

Thus will the doctrine of benevolence and affability, implanted early in the mind of a young gentleman, and duly cultivated as he grows up, inspire him with the requisite conduct to command respect from proper motives; and while it will make the servants observe a decorum towards him, it will oblige them to have a guard upon their words and actions in presence of one, whose manner of education and training-up would be so great a reproach to them, if they were grossly faulty:  so thus, I conceive, a mutual benefit will flow to the manners of each; and his good behaviour will render him, in some measure, an instructive monitor to the whole family.

But permit me, Sir, to enlarge on the hint I have already given, in relation to the example of parents, in case a preference be given to the home education.  For if this point cannot be secured, I should always imagine it were best to put the child to such a school, as I formerly mentioned.  But yet the subject might be spared by me in this case, as I write with a view only to your family; though you will remember, that while I follow Mr. Locke, whose work is public, I must be considered as directing myself to the generality of the world:  for, Sir, I have the pleasure to say, that your conduct in your family is unexceptionable; and the pride to think that mine is no disgrace to it.  No one hears a word from your mouth unbecoming the character of a polite gentleman; and I shall always be very regardful of what falls from mine.  Your temper, Sir, is equal and kind to all your servants, and they love you, as well as awfully respect you:  and well does your beautiful and considerate mind, deserve it of them all:  and they, seeing I am watchful over my own conduct, so as not to behave unworthy of your kind example, regard me as much as I could wish they should; for well do they know, that their beloved master will have it so, and greatly honours and esteems me himself.  Your table-talk is such as persons of the strictest principles may hear, and join in:  your guests, and your friends are, generally speaking, persons of the genteelest life, and of the best manners.  So that Mr. Locke would have advised you, of all gentlemen, had he been living, and known you, to give your children a home education, and assign these, and still stronger reasons for it.