(by that superior) in virtue also. In all the
kinds of friendship now specified there is equality
(VI.). There are friendships where one party is
superior, as father and son, older and younger, husband
and wife, governor and governed. In such cases
there should be a proportionably greater love on the
part of the inferior. When the love on each side
is proportioned to the merit of the party beloved,
then we have a certain species of equality, which
is an ingredient in friendship. But equality in
matters of friendship, is not quite the same as equality
in matters of justice. In matters of justice,
equality proportioned to merit stands first—equality
between man and man (no account being taken of comparative
merit) stands only second. In friendship, the
case is the reverse; the perfection of friendship
is equal love between the friends towards each other;
to have greater love on one side, by reason of and
proportioned to superior merit, is friendship only
of the second grade. This will be evident if
we reflect that extreme inequality renders friendship
impossible—as between private men and kings
or gods. Hence the friend can scarcely wish for
his friend the maximum of good, to become a god; such
extreme elevation would terminate the friendship.
Nor will he wish his friend to possess all the good;
for every one wishes most for good to self (VII.).
The essence of friendship is to love rather than to
be loved, as seen in mothers; but the generality of
persons desire rather to be loved, which is akin to
being honoured (although honour is partly sought as
a sign of future favours). By means of love, as
already said, unequal friendships may be equalized.
Friendship with the good, is based on equality and
similarity, neither party ever desiring base services.
Friendships for the useful are based on the contrariety
of fulness and defect, as poor and rich, ignorant
and knowing (VIII.). Friendship is an incident
of political society; men associating together for
common ends, become friends. Political justice
becomes more binding when men are related by friendship.
The state itself is a community for the sake of advantage;
the expedient to all is the just. In the large
society of the state, there are many inferior societies
for business, and for pleasure: friendship starts
up in all (IX.). There are three forms of Civil
Government, with a characteristic declension or perversion
of each:—Monarchy passing into Despotism;
Aristocracy into Oligarchy; Timocracy (based on wealth)
into Democracy; parent and child typifies the first;
husband and wife the second; brothers the third (X.).
The monarchial or paternal type has superiority on
one side, and demands honour as well as love on the
other. In aristocracy, the relation is one of
merit, and the greater love is given to the better.
In timocracy, and among brothers, there is equality;
and hence the most frequent friendships. There
is no friendship towards a slave, as a slave, for,
as such he is a mere animate tool (XL.). In the