of Sentiments flowing from habitual Chastity of Thought;
but mixed Company is frequently made up of Pretenders
to Mirth, and is usually pestered with constrained,
obscene, and painful Witticisms. Now and then
you meet with a Man so exactly formed for Pleasing,
that it is no matter what he is doing or saying, that
is to say, that there need no Manner of Importance
in it, to make him gain upon every Body who hears
or beholds him. This Felicity is not the Gift
of Nature only, but must be attended with happy Circumstances,
which add a Dignity to the familiar Behaviour which
distinguishes him whom we call an agreeable Man.
It is from this that every Body loves and esteems
Polycarpus. He is in the Vigour of his
Age and the Gayety of Life, but has passed through
very conspicuous Scenes in it; though no Soldier, he
has shared the Danger, and acted with great Gallantry
and Generosity on a decisive Day of Battle. To
have those Qualities which only make other Men conspicuous
in the World as it were supernumerary to him, is a
Circumstance which gives Weight to his most indifferent
Actions; for as a known Credit is ready Cash to a
Trader, so is acknowledged Merit immediate Distinction,
and serves in the Place of Equipage to a Gentleman.
This renders
Polycarpus graceful in Mirth, important
in Business, and regarded with Love in every ordinary
Occurrence. But not to dwell upon Characters
which have such particular Recommendations to our
Hearts, let us turn our Thoughts rather to the Methods
of Pleasing which must carry Men through the World
who cannot pretend to such Advantages. Falling
in with the particular Humour or Manner of one above
you, abstracted from the general Rules of good Behaviour,
is the Life of a Slave. A Parasite differs in
nothing from the meanest Servant, but that the Footman
hires himself for bodily Labour, subjected to go and
come at the Will of his Master, but the other gives
up his very Soul: He is prostituted to speak,
and professes to think after the Mode of him whom
he courts. This Servitude to a Patron, in an honest
Nature, would be more grievous than that of wearing
his Livery; therefore we will speak of those Methods
only which are worthy and ingenuous.
The happy Talent of Pleasing either those above you
or below you, seems to be wholly owing to the Opinion
they have of your Sincerity. This Quality is
to attend the agreeable Man in all the Actions of his
Life; and I think there need no more be said in Honour
of it, than that it is what forces the Approbation
even of your Opponents. The guilty Man has an
Honour for the Judge who with Justice pronounces against
him the Sentence of Death it self. The Author
of the Sentence at the Head of this Paper, was an
excellent Judge of human Life, and passed his own in
Company the most agreeable that ever was in the World.
Augustus lived amongst his Friends as if he
had his Fortune to make in his own Court: Candour
and Affability, accompanied with as much Power as ever