It is essential also that the mother have sense, intelligence, comprehension.

As much as she can add of education and accomplishments will increase her stock in trade.  Her reading and riding and music, instead of being neglected for her children’s sake, should for their sake be scrupulously cultivated.  Of the two things, it is a thousand times better that they should be attended by a nurserymaid in their infancy than by a feeble, timid, inefficient matron in their youth.  The mother can oversee half a dozen children with a nurse; but she needs all her strength, all her mind, her own eyes, and ears, and quick perceptions, and delicate intuition, and calm self-possession, when her sturdy boys and wild young girls are leaping and bounding and careering into their lusty life.  All manner of novel temptations beset them,—­perils by night and perils by day,—­perils in the house and by the way.  Their fierce and hungry young souls, rioting in awakening consciousness, ravening for pleasure, strong and tumultuous, snatch eagerly at every bait.  They want then a mother able to curb, and guide, and rule them; and only a mother who commands their respect can do this.  Let them see her sought for her social worth,—­let them see that she is familiar with all the conditions of their life,—­that her vision is at once broader and keener than theirs,—­that her feet have travelled along the paths they are just beginning to explore,—­that she knows all the phases alike of their strength and their weakness,—­and her influence over them is unbounded.  Let them see her uncertain, uncomfortable, hesitating, fearful without discrimination, leaning where she ought to support, interfering without power of suggesting, counselling, but not controlling, with no presence, no bearing, no experience, no prestige, and they will carry matters with a high hand.  They will overrule her decisions, and their love will not be unmingled with contempt.  It will be strong enough to prick them when they have done wrong, but not strong enough to keep them from doing wrong.

Nothing gives a young girl such vantage-ground in society and in life as a mother,—­a sensible, amiable, brilliant, and commanding woman.  Under the shelter of such a mother’s wing, the neophyte is safe.  This mother will attract to herself the wittiest and the wisest.  The young girl can see society in its best phases, without being herself drawn out into its glare.  She forms her own style on the purest models.  She gains confidence, without losing modesty.  Familiar with wisdom, she will not be dazed by folly.  Having the opportunity to make observations before she begins to be observed, she does not become the prey of the weak and the wicked.  Her taste is strengthened and refined, her standard elevates itself, her judgment acquires a firm basis.  But cast upon her own resources, her own blank inexperience, at her first entrance into the world, with nothing to stand between her and what is openly vapid and covertly vicious, with no clear eye to detect for her the false and distinguish the true, no strong, firm, judicious hand to guide tenderly and undeviatingly, to repress without irritating and encourage without emboldening, what wonder that the peach-bloom loses its delicacy, deepening into rouge or hardening into brass, and the happy young life is stranded on a cruel shore?