coarseness, and general emotional shallowness and sexual
frivolity. The prevention of choice is only one
of the obstacles to love, but it is one of the most
formidable, because it has acted at all times and
among races of all degrees of barbarism or civilization
up to modern Europe of two or three centuries ago.
And to the frustration and free choice was added another
obstacle—the separation of the sexes.
Some Indians and even Australians tried to keep the
sexes apart, though usually without much success.
In their cause no harm was done to the cause of love,
because these races are constitutionally incapable
of romantic love; but in higher stages of civilization
the strict seclusion of the women was a fatal obstacle
to love. Wherever separation of the sexes and
chaperonage prevails, the only kind of amorous infatuation
possible, as a rule, is sensual passion, fiery but
transient. To love a girl sentimentally—that
is, for her mental beauty and moral refinement as
well as her bodily charms—a man must get
acquainted with her, be allowed to meet her frequently.
This was not possible until within a few generations.
The separation of the sexes, by preventing all possibility
of refined and legitimate courtship, favored illicit
amours on one side, loveless marriages on the other,
thus proving one of the most formidable obstacles to
love. “It is not enough to give time for
mutual knowledge and affection after marriage,”
wrote the late Henry Drummond.
“Nature must deepen the result
by extending it to the time before marriage....
Courtship, with its vivid perceptions and quickened
emotions, is a great opportunity for evolution;
and to institute and lengthen reasonably a period
so rich in impression is one of its latest and
brightest efforts.”
XI. SEXUAL TABOOS
If a law were passed compelling every man living in
Rochester, N.Y., who wanted a wife to get her outside
of that city, in Buffalo, Syracuse, Utica, or some
other place, it would be considered an outrageous
restriction of free choice, calculated to diminish
greatly the chances of love-matches based on intimate
acquaintance. If such a law had existed for generations
and centuries, sanctioned by religion and custom and
so strictly enforced that violation of it entailed
the danger of capital punishment, a sentiment would
have grown up in course of time making the inhabitants
of Rochester look upon marriage within the city with
the same horror as they do upon incestuous unions.
This is not an absurd or fanciful supposition.
Such laws and customs actually did prevail in this
very section of New York State. The Seneca tribe
of the Iroquois Indians was divided into two phratries,
each of which was again subdivided into four clans,
named after their totems or animals; the Bear, Wolf,
Beaver, and Turtle clans belonging to one phratry,
while the other included the Deer, Snipe, Heron, and
Hawk clans. Morgan’s researches show that