“but in many cases which came under my notice it was not a matter of form but painful earnestness.” “It often happens that the young woman has a liking for another and none for the man who has purchased her. She may refuse to go to him. In that case her friends consider themselves disgraced by her conduct. She ought, according to their notions, to fall in with their arrangements with thankfulness and gladness of heart! They drag her along, beat her, kick and abuse her, and it has been my misfortune to see girls dragged past my house, struggling in vain to escape from their fate. Sometimes they have broken loose and then ran for the only place of refuge in all the country, the mission-house. I could render them no assistance until they had bounded up the steps of my veranda into our bedroom and hidden themselves under the bed, trembling for their lives. It has been my privilege and duty to stand between the infuriated brother or father, who has followed close upon the poor girl, spear in hand, vowing to put her to death for the disgrace she has brought upon them.” “Liberty of choice,”
indeed!
“In some parts of Java, much deference is paid to the bride’s inclinations,” writes Westermarck. But Earl declares (58) that among the Javanese “courtship is carried on entirely through the medium of the parents of the young people, and any interference on the part of the bride would be considered highly indecorous,” And Raffles writes (I., Ch. VII.) that in Java “marriages are invariably contracted, not by the parties themselves, but by their parents or relations on their behalf.” Betrothals of children, too, are customary. Regarding the Sumatrans, Westermarck cites Marsden to the effect that among the Rejang a man may run away with a virgin without violating the laws, provided he pays her parents for her afterward—which tells us little about the girl’s choice. But why does he ignore Marsden’s full account, a few pages farther on, of Sumatran marriages in general? There are four kinds, one of which, he says, is a regular treaty between the parties on a footing of equality; this is called marriage by semando. In the jujur a sum of money is given by one man to another “as a consideration for the person of his daughter, whose situation in this case differs not much from that of a slave to the man she marries, and to his family.” In other cases one virgin is given in exchange for another, and in the marriage by ambel anak the father of a young man chooses a wife for him. Finally he shows that the customs of Sumatrans do not favor courtship, the young men and women being kept carefully apart.