I never believe a statement made by a too-accurate man one bit more quickly than one made by a genial, entertaining diner-out.  If it were on the subject of timetables, just between ourselves, I should take the trouble to verify both.

THE IRRESISTIBLE MAN

To other men, the irresistible man too often means the man who publicly ogles women.  That is because men can see him.  But to women, what we can see forms but a small portion of our lives.  We hear more than we see, and feel more than we hear.  George Eliot says:  “The best of us go about well wadded with stupidity, otherwise we would die of the roar that lies on the other side of silence.”

But most men have to see things, and they can always see the ogling man, and he always makes them perfectly furious.  Queer, isn’t it, when the Simon Tappertits of this life are the least of the men who bore us?  In fact, I never should have thought of him if some man had not spoken of him.  And while I occasionally have been honored by the exertions of one of these insects to attract my attention, thereby proving that I am a woman, I can honestly say that I never remember seeing one.  Women who are capable of being really bored never even see such men; any more than if you were being roasted alive you would care if a hairpin pulled.

It is a mistake to confound the irresistible man with the fool.  Neither is he stupid.  Very often he is a man of no small amount of brain.  He is, of course, always conceited, and generally, though not always, handsome.  I am not describing the soft, sapient, pretty man who lisps, nor the weak-kneed young gentleman with pink cheeks who sings tenor.  Far worse.  The irresistible man, as we know him, is often a man who is doing a man’s work in the world, and doing it well.  He is frequently a man of character, but through that character runs this strange, irritating thread of conceit, which blinds our eyes to whatever of real worth may be within, because of his exasperatingly confident exterior.

We should brush him aside as carelessly as if he were a fly should there be nothing to him worth hating.  But the maddening part of it to us is that the irresistible man is worth saving, only he will not be saved.  He thinks he is perfect as he is.  If he could get our point of view and let some woman take a hand at him, she might efface his irresistibleness and make a man of him.  But no, the irresistible man is in this world to give points—­not take them.

A queer thing about this particular type of the irresistible man is that he nearly always has grown up in a small town and has only come to the city because his village got too small for his talents.  That of itself explains his whole attitude towards the world.  Having probably been the “show pupil” at school, having taken prizes and ranked first among his fellows until he was twenty-one, he brings that confident attitude with him and plants himself in the heart of the great city, like Ajax defying the lightning, without the thought that changed environments might demand change of conduct as well as change in clothes.