could be taken until after the Long Vacation.
The case came on for hearing first in November, 1878,
and then in January, 1879. All access to the children
had been denied me, and the money due to me had been
withheld. By this my opponent had put himself
so completely in the wrong that even the Master of
the Rolls uttered words of severe condemnation of
the way in which I had been treated. Then a curious
interlude took place. The Master of the Rolls
advised me to file a counter-claim for divorce or for
judicial separation, and I gladly agreed to do so,
feeling very doubtful as to the Master of the Rolls’
power to do anything of the kind, but very glad that
he should think he had the authority. While the
claim was being prepared, I obtained access to the
children under an interim order, as well as the money
owing to me, and at the end of March the case again
came before the Master of the Rolls. The claim
filed alleged distinct acts of cruelty, and I brought
witnesses to support the claim, among them the doctor
who had attended me during my married life. Mr.
Ince filed an answer of general denial, adding that
the acts of cruelty, if any, were “done in the
heat of the moment”. He did not, however,
venture to contest the case, although I tendered myself
for cross-examination, but pleaded the deed of separation
as a bar to further proceedings on my part; I argued
on the other hand that as the deed had been broken
by the plaintiff’s act, all my original rights
revived. Sir George Jessel held that the deed
of separation condoned all that had gone before it,
if it was raised as a bar to further proceedings,
and expressed his regret that he had not known there
would be “any objection on the other side”,
when he advised a claim for a judicial separation.
On the final hearing of the case in April in the Rolls’
Court Sir George Jessel decided that the deed of separation
was good as protecting Mr. Besant from any suit on
my part to obtain a decree for the restitution of
conjugal rights, although it had been set aside on
the one matter of value to me—the custody
of my child. The net result of the proceedings
was that had I gone to the Divorce Court in 1873,
I might at least have obtained a divorce
a mensa
e thoro; that in my desire to avoid publicity,
and content in what I believed to be secure possession
of my child, I had agreed to a deed which fully protected
Mr. Besant against any action on my part, but which
could be set aside by him for the purpose of robbing
me of my child.
The argument in the Court of Appeal came on during
April, and was, as I expected, decided against me,
the absolute right of the father being declared, and
a married mother held to have no sort of claim over
her own children. The worst stigma affixed to
marriage by the law of England is this ignoring of
any right of the married mother to her child; the law
protects the unmarried, but insults the married, mother,
and places in the hands of the legal husband an instrument
of torture whose power to agonise depends on the tenderness
and strength of the motherliness of the wife.
In fact the law says to every woman: “Choose
which of these two positions you will have: if
you are legally your husband’s wife you can
have no legal claim to your children; if legally you
are your husband’s mistress, then your rights
as mother are secure”.