sees, and is sensible of his affections, n. 173.  There are duties proper to the husband, and others proper to the wife; and the wife cannot enter into the duties proper to the husband, nor the husband into the duties proper to the wife, so as to perform them aright, n. 174, 175.  These duties also, according to mutual aid, conjoin the two into a one, and at the same time constitute one house, n. 176.  Married partners, according to these conjunctions, become one man more and more, n. 177.  Those who are principled in love truly conjugial, are sensible of their being a united man, as it were one flesh, n. 178.  Love truly conjugial, considered in itself, is a union of souls, a conjunction of minds, and an endeavour towards conjunction in the bosoms, and thence in the body, n. 179.  The states of this love are innocence, peace, tranquillity, inmost friendship, full confidence, and a mutual desire of mind and heart to do every good to each other; and the states derived from these are blessedness, satisfaction, delight, and pleasure; and from the eternal enjoyment of these is derived heavenly felicity, n. 180.  These things can only exist in the marriage of one man with one wife, n. 181.

ON THE CHANGE OF THE STATE OF LIFE WHICH TAKES PLACE WITH MEN AND WOMEN BY MARRIAGE, n. 184-206

The state of a man’s life, from infancy even to the end of his life, and afterwards to eternity, is continually changing, n. 185.  In like manner a man’s internal form, which is that of his spirit, is continually changing n. 186.  These changes differ in the case of men and of women; since men from creation are forms of knowledge, intelligence, and wisdom, and women are forms of the love of those principles as existing with men, n. 187.  With men there is an elevation of the mind into superior light, and with women an elevation of the mind into superior heat; and the woman is made sensible of the delights of her heat in the man’s light, n. 188, 189.  With both men and women, the states of life before marriage are different from what they are afterwards, n. 190.  With married partners the states of life after marriage are changed, and succeed each other according to the conjunctions of their minds by conjugial love, n. 191.  Marriage also induces other forms in the souls and minds of married partners, n. 192.  The woman is actually formed into a wife, according to the description in the book of creation, n. 193.  This formation is effected on the part of the wife by secret means:  and this is meant by the woman’s being created while the man slept, n. 194.  This formation on the part of the wife, is effected by the conjunction of her own will with the internal will of the man, n. 195.  The end herein is, that the will of both may become one, and that thus both may become one man, n. 196.  This formation (on the part of the wife) is effected by an appropriation of the affections of the husband, n. 197.  This formation (on the part of the wife) is effected by a reception of the