lenibat dictis animum, and told him who she was, Ego sum, inquit:  At ego non sum ego; but he replied, “he was not the same man:”  proripuit sese tandem, as [5672]Aeneas fled from Dido, not vouchsafing her any farther parley, loathing his folly, and ashamed of that which formerly he had done. [5673]_Non sum stultus ut ante jam Neaera_.  “O Neaera, put your tricks, and practise hereafter upon somebody else, you shall befool me no longer.”  Petrarch hath such another tale of a young gallant, that loved a wench with one eye, and for that cause by his parents was sent to travel into far countries, “after some years he returned, and meeting the maid for whose sake he was sent abroad, asked her how, and by what chance she lost her eye? no, said she, I have lost none, but you have found yours:”  signifying thereby, that all lovers were blind, as Fabius saith, Amantes de forma judicare non possunt, lovers cannot judge of beauty, nor scarce of anything else, as they will easily confess after they return unto themselves, by some discontinuance or better advice, wonder at their own folly, madness, stupidity, blindness, be much abashed, “and laugh at love, and call it an idle thing, condemn themselves that ever they should be so besotted or misled:  and be heartily glad they have so happily escaped.”

If so be (which is seldom) that change of place will not effect this alteration, then other remedies are to be annexed, fair and foul means, as to persuade, promise, threaten, terrify, or to divert by some contrary passion, rumour, tales, news, or some witty invention to alter his affection, [5674]"by some greater sorrow to drive out the less,” saith Gordonius, as that his house is on fire, his best friends dead, his money stolen. [5675]"That he is made some great governor, or hath some honour, office, some inheritance is befallen him.”  He shall be a knight, a baron; or by some false accusation, as they do to such as have the hiccup, to make them forget it.  St. Hierome, lib. 2. epist. 16. to Rusticus the monk, hath an instance of a young man of Greece, that lived in a monastery in Egypt, [5676]"that by no labour, no continence, no persuasion, could be diverted, but at last by this trick he was delivered.  The abbot sets one of his convent to quarrel with him, and with some scandalous reproach or other to defame him before company, and then to come and complain first, the witnesses were likewise suborned for the plaintiff.  The young man wept, and when all were against him, the abbot cunningly took his part, lest he should be overcome with immoderate grief:  but what need many words? by this invention he was cured, and alienated from his pristine love-thoughts”—­Injuries, slanders, contempts, disgraces—­spretaeque injuria formae, “the insult of her slighted beauty,” are very forcible means to withdraw men’s affections, contumelia affecti amatores amare desinunt, as [5677]Lucian saith, lovers reviled or neglected, contemned or misused, turn love