in the present tense. And to come nearer home,
nothing draws a woman like to it, for valour towards
men is an emblem of an ability towards women, a good
quality signifies a better. Nothing is more behoveful
for that sex, for from it they receive protection,
and we free from the danger of it; nothing makes a
shorter cut to obtaining, for a man of arms is always
void of ceremony, which is the wall that stands betwixt
Pyramus and Thisbe, that is, man and woman, for there
is no pride in women but that which rebounds from our
own baseness, as cowards grow valiant upon those that
are more cowards, so that only by our pale asking
we teach them to deny. And by our shamefacedness
we put them in mind to be modest, whereas indeed, it
is cunning rhetoric to persuade the hearers that they
are that already which we would have them to be.
This kind of bashfulness is far from men of valour,
and especially from soldiers, for such are ever men
without doubt forward and confident, losing no time
lest they should lose opportunity, which is the best
factor for a lover. And because they know women
are given to dissemble, they will never believe them
when they deny. Whilom before this age of wit
and wearing black broke in upon us, there was no way
known to win a lady but by tilting, tourneying, and
riding through forests, in which time these slender
striplings with little legs were held but of strength
enough to marry their widows. And even in our
days there can be given no reason of the inundation
of serving-men upon their mistresses, but only that
usually they carry their mistresses’ weapons
and his valour. To be counted handsome, just,
learned, or well-favoured, all this carries no danger
with it, but it is to be admitted to the title of
valiant acts, at least the venturing of his mortality,
and all women take delight to hold him safe in their
arms who hath escaped thither through many dangers.
To speak at once, man hath a privilege in valour;
in clothes and good faces we but imitate women, and
many of that sex will not think much, as far as an
answer goes, to dissemble wit too. So then these
neat youths, these women in men’s apparel, are
too near a woman to be beloved of her, they be both
of a trade; but he of grim aspect, and such a one a
glass dares take, and she will desire him for newness
and variety. A scar in a man’s face is
the same that a mole in a woman’s, is a jewel
set in white to make it seem more white, for a scar
in a man is a mark of honour and no blemish, for ’tis
a scar and a blemish in a soldier to be without one.
Now, as for all things else which are to procure love,
as a good face, wit clothes, or a good body, each
of them, I confess, may work somewhat for want of
a better, that is, if valour be not their rival.
A good face avails nothing if it be in a coward that
is bashful, the utmost of it is to be kissed, which
rather increaseth than quencheth appetite. He
that sends her gifts sends her word also that he is
a man of small gifts otherwise, for wooing by signs