VII.

Family cares and trials.

In the autumn her husband took her a journey into the north of England, going by Warwick, Stratford-upon-Avon, Chester, Liverpool, and the Lakes, some of the excursions at which she went on horseback.  She was even able to climb Skiddaw, so that her health had been much restored by the expedition.  They were glad to get back to their comfortable home, mother and child both better for the trip.  Soon after their return, her brother Samuel came to reside at Mildred’s Court, to learn details of the banking business, and it was to both a great pleasure to be near one another.  A second girl was born in March, 1803; and altogether she had in future years a very large family, eleven sons and daughters; regarding which it is sufficient to say that the succession of illnesses caused so much nervousness and debility, that we can only the more marvel at the indomitable spirit with which she afterwards undertook the labours of charity and beneficence which have made her name so famous.  There were also, besides her personal illnesses, many events of trial and of bereavement, as must necessarily happen where there are numerous relatives.  Writing at Earlham on the 20th of August, 1808, she says, “I have been married eight years yesterday.  Various trials of faith and patience have been permitted me; my course has been very different from what I expected; and instead of being, as I had hoped, a useful instrument in the Church militant, here I am, a careworn wife and mother, outwardly nearly devoted to the things of this life.  Though, at times, this difference in my destination has been trying to me, yet I believe those trials that I have had to go through have been very useful, and brought me to a feeling sense of what I am:  and at the same time have taught me where power is, and in what we are to glory; not in ourselves, nor in anything we can be, or do; but we are only to desire that He may be glorified, either through us, or others, in our being something or nothing, as He may see best for us.”

That same year in late autumn, her dear father-in-law Fry was at Mildred’s Court, very ill; and he died there, being carefully and tenderly nursed by his daughter-in-law.  She also, at risk to her own family, went to nurse her sister Hannah, in what turned out to be scarlet fever, about which she says, that “she did not know what malady it was when she went; and that she was the only sister then at liberty to wait on her.”  Through God’s mercy, no harm came to her own family from being there, and no one else took the complaint.  “This I consider,” she says, “a great outward blessing.  May I be enabled to give thanks, and to prove my thankfulness by more and more endeavouring to give up body, soul, and spirit, to the service of my beloved Master.”